How To Ditch For Ever The Ridiculous Idea That You’re Not Good Enough

“Today …

I want you to think about 

All That You Are

instead of all that you’re not.”  

(Quote by melissacatherineharrison.com on Pinterest)

 

Is this you?

Do you tell yourself you’re just not good enough?

Many of us do.

All the time.

And you’re fed up with feeling this way, right?

So … let’s sort this, starting with a couple of lists.

I’d like you to write a list of all the things you’d really love to do but are not doing because you know you’re not good enough.

First of all,  … (yes … I mean this) … write down everything you instinctively know you are good at.

Why not ask some friends to tell you what they know you’re good at?

Take a few minutes think to about the jobs you’ve had, your interests, and what these tell you about what you’re good at.

Like this …

• I’m good at…
• I instinctively enjoy doing…
• I play the guitar.
• I’m good with old people, children, teenagers.

I hope you have a long list.

Read it through and remind yourself of all your strengths.

And now … be brave … add 3 more …

So you’re not a waste of space! 

I can hear you asking …

‘Whose fault is it that I feel this way?’

The good news is that, like lacking confidence, it’s not your fault. 

There are many factors that have contributed to you feeling negative about yourself.

For example …

• Perhaps your parents constantly compared you with other children?

Like this …

When you were young …

‘They never speak to their mum like that!’ ‘

They clean their own shoes!’

‘They eat what’s put in front of them!’

And as you got older …

‘They are applying for a top uni!’

‘They got straight ‘A’s!’

‘They don’t smoke!’

• Perhaps your teachers didn’t help … they could have a lot to answer for … (yes, I was a teacher but I know I never did stuff like this …)

A client told me his story …

“I found life hard at school.

I failed an important exam because an insensitive teacher told me I was rubbish and I believed him.”

(If only those teachers knew the damage they did, sometimes with only a chance remark.)

“Is it any wonder I’ve always wished I’d followed my instinct and applied to uni?

But those negative voices from the past told me different.

They’d told me I wasn’t good enough.

And I believed them.

Result?

I settled for far less than I was capable of achieving.”

So what’s the bottom line?

You have 2 choices.

1. Start believing your instincts, your inner ‘self’,  telling you that you are good enough, and read through the list of everything you’re good at.

And believe it.

Or … if you prefer …

2.  Carry on believing those ghosts from your past who trained you to believe you are not good enough.

And that’s it!

Now it’s your turn…

In the space below, tell us what you’ve done to start believing in yourself,  despite distant voices telling you different.

You can be sure your story will help others who struggle with this.

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Fed Up With Feeling Inferior? Here’s How To Fix It With One Simple Step

In my last post I wrote – with a particular client in mind – about how to overcome a feeling of inferiority before and during a job interview,

Here’s an extract from the email he sent me, after his interview had  taken place …

‘I didn’t, for the first time that I can remember, feel inferior when I went into the meeting.’

Wow.

I was so pleased I’d been able to help him.

Now I’m writing this for anyone else out there who is fed up with feeling inferior and wants to do something about it.

Is this you?

You just don’t fit. 

I’m sure one of these situations will ring a bell …

• You walk into a meeting and you know everyone in the room is ‘better/cleverer/more able than you,
• You buy a new outfit but are too scared to wear it because you know everyone will look better than you,
• You join a class but you know everyone else will be better at this subject than you.

I bet you can add many more  from your experience.

Worry not …

Here’s How To Fix Feeling Inferior With One Simple Step  

All you have to do is …

‘Act As If …’

And it works.

Many of my clients have tried it.

And … it works.

Yes, at first, there’s a bit of ‘play acting’ to be done.  But the more you ‘Act As If’, the less inferior you’ll feel.

You need to practise not feeling inferior. 

Let’s face it, you’ve spent a long time practising feeling inferior so, yes, it’ll take some hard work.

You need to notice and start to change your body language.

You need to ‘Act As If’.

The positive response you get from the people you meet will help chase away all feelings of inferiority.

Once you become aware of your body language, you’ll be well on the way to fixing your inferior feelings.

Like this …

• Next time you answer the phone, SMILE!  Get into the habit of doing this every time. You’d be amazed if you could see the effect it has on the person at the other end.
• Try not to fold your arms defensively in front of your chest.
• Try making eye contact with the check out girl, or the next person you speak to, holding it for a few seconds. 
• Try not to look down when someone speaks to you; look at them instead.
• Stand tall.
• Check next time you pass a shop window and smile at the reflection. It’s you. And you’re not inferior. You’re you.

These are just a few examples – I’m sure you can think of more. 

Once you start, it’ll come more naturally.

Trust me.

I know these things …

Over To You …

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